Syndicated on BlogHer!

Oh my goodness. I received an e-mail from Mel at BlogHer today. You know MEL….who writes Stirrup Queens and is in charge of NaBloPoMo over at BlogHer. As I told her in an e-mail, she’s pretty much a celebrity to me. Anyway, they syndicated my Lessons Learned post and you can go look at it on their nifty website over here: http://www.blogher.com/ and the direct link (because I suppose I can’t be on the front of the website forever) is here: http://www.blogher.com/nablopomo-lessons-learned.

Please go support us over there, we’ll love you forever. Or I will. I can’t really speak for Casey because he is in bed again (and I am the ever caring wife, who sent him to bed so  I could work on the blog, he could rest).

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NaBloPoMo: Lessons Learned

We have arrived.

Day 30. Did you hear me?

DAY 30 OF DAILY BLOGGING.

We are rockstars.

Cue “Eye of the Tiger” playing on my iPod. We’ll call it mood music, because today’s post is all about what I’ve learned participating in National Blog Posting Month (NaBloPoMo) through BlogHer. Frankly, I’m not even sure that is what NaBloPoMo stands for, but we’ll go with it. Get comfortable, grab some Ramen noodles (kudos if you get the reference) and let’s rehash all the things I’ve learned through this process.

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1. Community is Awesome. Okay. I mostly knew this already, but the blogging community? IS SUPER AWESOME. I have met so many amazing people through this experience. I have new blog friends that I never would have “met” without this experience. I have learned about how Tricia practices the art of being grateful. And how Kenya is learning to be content in her home state (which next year will also be mine!) I met Rachel, who doesn’t have a blogging niche either, but is still undertaking the challenge. I followed the journey of Molly Jo and was smiling when she learned she didn’t need a schedule to have a good time. And then there is Melissa who has super powers, you know! I met Taylor who shares my love for Christmas music early in the season.

Do you get the picture? I didn’t even meet all of these people through NaBloPoMo, but in my search for inspiration to keep writing every day, I started to participate in other writing communities such as the SITS Girls (can’t wait to be featured!), Write on Edge, and Mama Kat’s Writing Workshop. I joined in on weekly themes such as Heather’s Just Write on Tuesdays, Allison’s Way Back When-sday, and Fadra’s Stream of Consciousness Sunday.

All of these things I never knew existed until I embarked into the adventure of NaBloPoMo.

2.  I’m Good Enough, I’m Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me! Okay. In all seriousness when I started this off, I had exactly 7 followers on my blog and 17 followers on Twitter. One month later? I’m up to 37 followers on the blog (almost time for that mid-life crisis!) and 74 followers on Twitter. Every post I put up now gets at least one comment! (and yeah, comments aren’t everything, but they do boost the ol’ self-esteem! Oh who am I kidding? Comments are everything!) I can’t take all the credit either, because this is a blog I share with my husband- and although he posts less frequently, everyone has been kind with their comments on his posts and I’m so glad that you all like him, too 😉

3. Blogging is no easy business. When I started this, we blogged sporadically and mostly our Moms read it (hi, Moms!). Now that other people are reading it, I am starting to think more about content, blog statistics, and how I can spread awareness of certain issues through this blog. But it’s not easy. It means keeping up with other people’s blogs, linking up in various formats, and making sure that it is accessible to a wide variety of people. I admire the “professional” bloggers because it’s nothing I’m cut out for. Too much staring mindlessly intently at a computer screen for me. Bravo, bloggers, BRAVO! I intend to keep up regular posting, but daily is just too much. And likely, I will stick with reading and commenting on a few beloved blogs instead of trying to read hundreds.

4. Writing is important to me. Initially, I embarked upon NaBloPoMo to force myself to get back into writing more frequently, therefore abiding by my self-imposed Happiness Project goal. I used to write ALL the time, and I loved it. Then I went through a long period after I got my Master’s degree of refusing to pick up a pen (or keyboard) for anything other than necessary paperwork and e-mails. This adventure has inspired me into dabbling in some creative writing, talking about memories, and painting pictures with words again. I am very thankful for this.

5. Follow through is awesome. Some goals are hard to achieve, and sometimes very hard to keep up with. Although it’s not much in the grand scheme of life, I feel accomplished that I made it to the end of this month, this goal, with all of these other amazing people!

6. I love that November is a 30 day month. Love it. I’m totally on blog vacation tomorrow. For at least a day!

So congratulations to all of you who have finished up NaBloPoMo with me!

Sit back, relax, pat yourself on the back, and celebrate! Anyone got any leftover pie to share?

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Self Portrait

Seconds away from saying “I do.” A year away from having a husband who survived a stroke. A year and a half away from having a miscarriage. 2 years and 3 months away from this moment.

I miss her, some days.

The person who doesn’t know what I know.

But she’s strong.

She’ll be okay.

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Linking up with Write on Edge.

Write on Edge: RemembeRED
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Blank

I am sitting here, staring at the blog post template. I have a blank mind. The hum of the computer, that I typically don’t hear is distracting. The candle that is burning smells like chocolate chip cookies, and it’s distracting me. It’s quiet.

Every time I try and think of a topic, I begin to fill my mind with other thoughts about…

How I hate the blinking cursor on a blank template.

How many things are on my never ending to-do list.

How I have to finish painting in this room.

How my husband went to bed early because he’s sick and I hope he’s asleep. AndI hope I don’t catch it.

How my dogs won’t just settle down tonight, probably because I didn’t have time to walk them today.

How none of the writing prompts I can find are jumping out at me.

How I started to write a post about a scary dream that I used to have as a child and deleted it, because I was bored even while I was writing it.

How grateful I am that my Mom had her yearly appointment with the transplant center today, and her Super kidney is still keeping her NORMAL.

How I need to call my Uncle again and see how he is.

How quickly the refreshment from a four day weekend can leave you on a Monday morning.

How long tomorrow is going to feel.

How I should schedule Wednesday’s post too because tomorrow is going to be so long.

How am I going to fill another blank template?

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Linking up with Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary
for her weekly gathering of people who are Just Writing! Join us!
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Ish

The other day I caught myself thinking as someone was talking to me, “wow they are being so childish!” and I didn’t mean it in a positive way. In fact, I’m not sure I’ve ever heard that phrase used in a positive way.

But why not?

Children laugh frequently. FULL BELLY LAUGH.

Children are honest (if not a tad blunt).

Children spend hours of their day doing things that make them happy.

Children are curious about the world around them.

Children stop and literally smell the flowers.

Children point out beautiful things that we tend to walk right by.

Children ask questions that matter.

Children make friends easily, and without thinking about politics, race, or religion.

Children are spontaneous (though we often choose to regard it as “impulsive”) with their thoughts, feelings, and hugs.

Children try new things, take risks, and aren’t afraid to fall.

So I say, today – go ahead and be childish. Sounds like a whole lot more fun than being adultish.

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New Christmas Traditions

We have a lot of “traditional” traditions. We bake cookies. We make chex mix. We drink hot chocolate and watch Santa Claus: The Movie on Christmas Eve. We sing Christmas songs. We put flannel sheets on (okay, that more of a winter necessity). We decorate a beautiful tree.

But the last year we’ve started a couple of new traditions. One is that we do not buy many (if any) Christmas presents for each other within my immediate family. Instead we pick a “Christmas Angel” from http://angel.jcpenney.com/angeltree/ and go shopping for a child or two. Last year we wrote stories about who we imagine these people to be and read them on Christmas morning in lieu of opening a million presents. It’s amazing and I love this new tradition. It’s fun to shop for kids who really need it. It’s awesome knowing that somewhere on Christmas morning, children are experiencing a brighter day because of my family. I highly recommend this.
Last year (and I’m kinda letting out a BIG SECRET here, but I want to pass the idea on) we did something called “Random Acts of Kindness”… I made up cards and my Mom, Casey, and I went about spreading holiday cheer. We sent random people flowers (I literally picked people out of a phone book and sent them flowers). We paid for tolls for the people behind us (and had the toll booth people give the next person a card that said “You’ve Been Hit By a Random Act of Kindness! Pass it on!”) We paid for people’s coffee behind us. We walked up main street and filled parking meters that were about to expire. I mailed out Dunkin Donut gift cards to people I picked out of a phone book. We bought Andes mints and put them in random people’s mailboxes. This was the most awesomest adventure EVER. We all giggled nearly every day about the surprised responses we saw, the imagined responses of people just receiving these random gifts in the mail. In all, over the month of Decemeber we committed over 100 random acts of kindness. It was SO much fun. Again, I highly recommend this.
Happy Holidays, everyone! Let the spreading of joy begin! 
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Stream of Consciousness Sunday

#SOCsunday

I know you are all wondering what my pesky blog is up to this week. Well, the blog just recently got up to 34 followers! I know right?! Unfortunately, at 32 s/he started sending out job resumes so s/he could move out of my basement and stop playing World of Warcraft so frequently, but somehow the blog just hasn’t had any luck getting interviews. Maybe YOU could be the next follower to help my dear ol’ blog hit the mid-life crisis phase of life. Who doesn’t love a mid-life crisis? A few hot flashes could help the blog combat the winter cold that is settling in on Maine. So go follow, now!

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We are nearing the end of NaBloPoMo (just as I get the spelling of NaBloPoMo down, of course, it will end). I’m looking forward to having a little time away from my computer. Every healthy relationship needs some time away, and the computer and I have been REALLY CLOSE lately. I am going to be writing a “Lessons Learned” post about NaBloPoMo, so be excited because I learned A LOT this month.
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Google Analytics only feeds the obsession of learning more about my demographics, readers, and statistics regarding this blog. It’s unhealthy, but so cool. I feel like a Ninja with all this information at my fingertips!
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We are getting our Christmas tree today. And in case you’ve been following for a few weeks, I DID get my living room painted (thanks to the support of my best friend). I also got the office painted. We are kicking butt on our Sell-This-Friggin-House-So-We-Can-Move-To-NC goal. It’s hard, but will be worth it in the end. Also, now I don’t have to force the attendees of my “Ugly Christmas Sweater” Party to paint a wall in my living room before they enjoy dessert. They may still be forced to take home a piece of crapinolongerwantinmyhouse, though.
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That’s my 5 minutes. Hope you enjoyed the roller coaster ride through my brain! I’m off to get ready for brunch with some of my fabulous social worker friends! We will sit around and diagnose talk with each other like it hasn’t been months since we last saw each other. I love that feeling. Happy Sunday, everyone!
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I am linking up with Fadra for my Stream of Consciousness Sunday.
Visit her here, and join in the brain vomiting fun!
  • Set a timer and write for 5 minutes only.
  • Write an intro to the post if you want but don’t edit the post. No proofreading or spellchecking. This is writing in the raw.
  • Publish it somewhere. Anywhere. The back door to your blog if you want. But make it accessible.
  • Add the Stream of Consciousness Sunday badge to your post.
  • Link up your post below.
  • Visit your fellow bloggers and show some love.
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    Clover Leaf Rolls (by Casey)

    It’s early to mid-morning, and the smell of the turkey that has been cooking for 5 hours is really starting to fill the house nicely.  My Mom is busy preparing enormous amounts of food in the kitchen, and my Dad is down puttering in the garage.  My Mom announces to my sister, my grandmother, and I that it’s time to come over to the table to make the rolls.

    We take our seats at the dinner table, still without a table cloth due to the amount of flour that is about to be dumped onto it.  My Mom pushes Grammy Gilman over in her wheelchair since she had a stroke, but she is cheerful as ever and ready to tackle the task ahead.  My Mom brings over a large stainless steel bowl, overflowing with the dough she made last night, and remarks about how much it rose.  Gram’s clover leaf rolls have been a Thanksgiving staple since before I can remember, and since she can’t make them on her own anymore, she’s decided to teach us how to assemble them with her.

    My Mom brings over the large can of Crisco, and we are each given a muffin tin.  Gram proceeds to dip her hand into the Crisco and shows us how much to rub into each of the cups in our muffin tin.  We follow suit, and soon we are ready to fill our tins with 36 clover leaf rolls.

    My Mom dumps a pile of flour in front of each of us, and after rubbing our fingers in it to avoid getting too sticky, we each rip a huge handful of dough out of the bowl.  Grammy demonstrates how big of a piece to take off of our clump of dough, and shows us how big of a ball we should roll it into.  We give it a try, filling each cup with three equally-sized (hopefully) little dough balls.  Gram’s always come out perfect.  Mine tend to be a little big and I have to focus on making them smaller.  We joke about what a giant roll will come out of some of the cups in my muffin tin.  I always love to hear Gram laugh, and I’m thankful she survived the stroke.

    We finish, and even with the flour I have quite a bit of dough stuck to my fingers.  I wash them off and my Mom takes over the clean up after removing the pans so they can rise.  She returns Gram to the living room to watch the parade, and I soon join her and we look at all the cool inflatable characters.

    When it comes time to eat, the rolls come out perfect. We joke again about how big some of them got, and how they must have come from my tin.  I take one and begin my annual count of how many rolls I ate this year.

    This was 2004.  Gram has been gone for three Thanksgivings now.  Two years ago, I attempted to make her recipe (having only formed them in the past), and while they were edible and enjoyed by Jenn, Stacey, and Sandy, they weren’t quite the same.  I tried them again this year, and taught Jenn and Stacey to be my helpers (oddly enough after having had a stroke myself), and they came out PERFECT.  Grammy Gilman’s tradition lives on, and now I will share it with the Blog World, in the hopes that it will etch itself into the Thanksgiving traditions of other families, too!  Happy Holidays everyone!

    Grammy Gilman’s Clover Leaf Rolls

    Ingredients

    2 cups lukewarm water (note: I had it pretty hot, not scalding, but hot)
    1/2 cup sugar
    1 1/2 tsp. salt
    1/4 cup shortening
    2 packages of yeast
    1 egg
    3 cups of flour
    Additional 3 1/2 to 4 cups of flour

    Sprinkle yeast over warn water and let dissolve (note: I did this in a fairly large bowl).
    Add remaining ingredients.
    Turn on to floured surface and knead till smooth and elastic (note: I gently stirred the ingredients in the bowl until it had a “batter-like” consistancy, with some lumps. I also didn’t measure the amount of flour I turned it onto, I just threw a bunch down and added as needed to get the desired consistancy.  I also turned the mixture onto the flour in small parts until I had a big dough ball.)
    You can either shape and let rise, or put the dough in the refrigerator until ready to use (in a greased bowl covered with a wet towel. It will start to rise in the refrigerator) (note: I did the latter and used Pam).
    When ready to use, spread Crisco in muffin tin.
    Roll dough into three small balls and place into each cup.
    Let rise for a hour, and bake.

    Rolls: 375 degrees F for 15-20 minutes

    Or you can make little bread loaves, as Gram sometimes did: 400 degrees F for approximately 30 minutes.

    Enjoy!

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    Kid Quote Friday

    Hi, everyone! Welcome back to the 2nd Edition of Kid Quote Friday 🙂 Hopefully they will make you laugh as you stand in line at Wal-Mart, feast on leftover pie, and listen to your 24 hour a day Christmas radio station!

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    Me: How are you today?
    Kid: Really busy!
    Me: With what?
    Kid: I got a stuck booger in my nose! I’ve been working on it all day!  -4 years old

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    Kid: Mom you need to do my homework for me!
    Mom: I don’t think so.
    Kid: BUT MOM. I’m FAMOUS now. FAMOUS PEOPLE DON’T DO THEIR OWN HOMEWORK! Everyone knows that. (10 y.o. after having a picture of her 4th grade class in the newspaper)
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     Me: So what are you thankful for? Friends? Family?
    Kid: Actually, I’m mostly just thankful that God made me *THIS* awesome! (10 y.o.)
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    Kid: Mama says it’s okay to ask strangers for candy today. But I still can’t ask them for money. (4 y.o.)
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    Kid: Well, he really hurt my feelings and now he’s down to 9.
    Me: 9 what?
    Kid: 9 more chances. If he hurts my heart 9 more times, I can’t be friends with him anymore.
    Me: Really? Why do they get 10 chances to hurt you?
    Kid: Well, because a cat has 9 lives – and my friends aren’t as smart as cats, so they need 10. (8 y.o.)
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    Kid: So when I say ‘huh’ it pretty much means that I’m bored of you talking.
    Me: Oh yeah?
    Kid: Yeah. I mean, it’s not that YOU’RE boring. It’s just that I pretty much know what I need to know…about life and stuff. I mean, I’m not little anymore you know. (Newly turned 8 y.o.)
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     Hope everyone has a great weekend! Stay safe, happy, and full on love! 
    
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    thankful

    soft light.
    dancing eyes.
    belly laughs.
    full heart.

    smells ignite memories
    that are then spoken out loud,
    remember when?

    around the table,
    thanks is given.
    for family.
    for hope.
    for everything,
    and for nothing.

    it is a day of remembering,
    of dreaming,
    of coming together.

    taking time to be present,
    to be humbled by the truth,
    that no matter how hard tomorrow is
    or yesterday was
    we would not be who we are
    without the difficult lessons

    we are thankful to simply be.

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    Linking up with MamaKat’s Writing Workshop this Thanksgiving.
    Go here to read some more amazing posts!
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