She

She is 14, but we met when she was 10.

She was my first client in my outpatient therapy job.

The first thing she told me was that she was never going to talk to me about her life.

So for the first few weeks, we sat together in silence for a hour.

But once she opened up, her words flowed like waterfalls.

She has an infectious laugh.

She is brave.

She taught me the Cha-Cha slide.

Her favorite game in sessions was charades.

Her incentive chart included being able to throw a whip creme pie at her Grandfather if she did all her homework.

She loves to color, to draw, to dance, and dress up her dogs.

She has been sick since she was born.

She believes in angels.

She is true courage, hope, and joy personified.

She has told me more than once that even know everyone believed she would get better, that she knew that she would not be on the Earth for very long, and she wanted to enjoy every minute.

In June I saw her and her family for the last time. I was leaving and she was so mad at me.

She had tears in her eyes as I walked away.

She is 14 and does not understand therapeutic boundaries, confidentiality, and why, even after working with her for almost 4 years, that I cannot maintain contact with her.

I learned through a strange grapevine that she is dying.

And I can only hope that her body and heart finds peace, and that although I cannot reach out to her, I hope she knows how much she changed my life.

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Dear You

I am so sorry that it has taken this long.

I am so sorry that you have been forced into the position of having to fight for your human rights.

I am sorry that so many people in this country believe they have the right to decide who you love, what’s best for you, and if and when you get to marry the person you love.

I am sorry that you have been encouraged for so long to hide who you are in this world simply because people are afraid, misinformed, and judgmental.

I want you to know that although I cannot feel what you feel, I stand with you.

And yesterday, when four states continued the path to marriage equality, including my beloved state of Maine, I cried tears of joy and relief with you.

I’m sorry that this fight is necessary, but please know – you are not alone. I am with you.

This is a long road.

Marriage equality passed in Maine, but still 47% of voters said “no.” 47% of voters still believe in denying your rights. And they’re not alone, for most of the country agrees with them.

No, we’re not there yet.

But we will get there.

And I, for one, can’t wait.

 

 

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No Regrets

See?  I came back for a second week in a row, just as promised!  Sorry if this caused you to lose a bet.  Next week, you’ll know who the winning horse is!!!  …Or something.

One of the reasons that my posts have been a bit on the lean side this year (ok, VERY lean….expect Sally Struthers to appear asking you to donate money to my blog posts), is due to the fact that I’m terrible at coming up with blog post ideas.  I can ramble on about things like the X-Men and Batman forever (*cough* “The Dark Knight Returns, Part 1” is AWESOME, go check it out *cough*), but that’s not really what this blog is about, nor is it my goal to scare everyone away with mindless nerd babble.

So, my savior is the writing prompt!  I did a google search, and was suddenly reminded that it was Nay Mole Blow Pole month, and EVERYONE is going to be getting desperate for blog writing prompts!  Hail to the Blow Pole!!!

I found a list on BlogHer, so I have chosen the topic listed for today (uh, I mean YESTERDAY) because it’s totally fitting: “If you could live anywhere, where would it be?”

A year ago (or even six months ago), I’d have said “Wilmington, NC in a better house!!!!”  Now that it’s November 3rd, 2012 I say “Near Wilmington, NC in the dream house that Jenn, Sandy, and I designed!!!!” Not that the apartment we’re in now isn’t great, it’s just that it will be nice to be settled in our house.  The sales rep from our future housing community just sent us this photo, the first glimpse we’ve gotten of the siding and shutters!

 

 

Doesn’t that look great??  I think we did a great job picking out the exterior colors!!

But the real point that I wanted to make is that I love living in Wilmington (or just outside of it, as the case will be).  I’ll be driving down the road running an errand, or going out with Jenn, and I’ll think “Wow, what a great town we live in!” pretty much daily.  The weather is perfect, there’s a TON of stuff to do, and Iron Man spent the summer down here.  What’s not to like???

There’s no “the grass is always greener” syndrome going on now that we’ve finally made it down here and settled in.  It was the right choice, and I have no regrets!

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I’m a Shameless Dance Mom and I Don’t Care

I’m totally gonna be THAT person.

The person that begs you to go to THIS PAGE and vote for Skeeter. He can win 3 days of free dog daycare – which will save me $60! And then, I’m gonna ask you again this weekend, because he has the chance to save us $75 off rent.

Please forgive me while I go in the corner and scream for Skeeter to stand up straight and smile big, just like all the other dance Moms.

 

 

PS: THANK YOU!!

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Happy Halloween!!!

From our Ewok to your family – we hope you had a great Halloween!!! xoxo

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Lessons Learned on the Road

In Wamego, Kansas we got very excited because there was  a Sonic! We’d never been to one, but always seen the commercials. Casey wasn’t feeling well, so we stopped to get Sonic for lunch to bring back to the hotel. We didn’t want to eat there, so we decided to park and go in.

Except (as all of your likely know, but we didn’t) you don’t go in to Sonic. You really do have to order at the drive in part or in the middle. We literally walked in to the kitchen of Sonic, and stopped in our tracks asking meekly “Is this where we order?” We then got the Sonic 101 from the waiter and backpedaled to the middle unit to order. The next time we went, we were pros and pulled right in. Lesson learned.

Throughout a lot of the west, the speed limit signs look like this. With a lower speed limit indicated for night.

Around 5pm, we were cruising through Colorado, I was driving. I passed by a police officer doing 65 and they immediately turned around and put on their lights.

My legs started shaking and I was freaking out. We couldn’t find my wallet that had my license, we had no idea where the registration was for the rental van, and we were pulling out various insurance cards as the police officer came up to the van.

We proceeded to get a lesson on Colorado’s version of nighttime. Apparently, whether or not it is dark at 5pm, 5pm is nighttime in Colorado. Period. End of sentence. So, on this particular day – it was 5:07pm and I was doing 65 in a 55. Nevermind that it was still daylight and their “nighttime” speed limit sign does not have a time on it. I guess you’re just supposed to know.

So we got pulled over. And frantically tried to find all of our information. And thankfully only got a verbal warning from the cop, who I kid you not was laughing in her cruiser while she checked my license and the car information. I can just imagine her telling the story of us to her co-workers. It didn’t help that we couldn’t remember where we had left from that morning when she asked where we were coming from. Or that I handed her a license with my name on it, an insurance car with Mom’s name on it, and a rental agreement for the van that we found out later was the previous renter’s agreement – someone named Murray.

5pm is nighttime in Colorado. Lesson learned.

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The Next Phase

 

It’s been awhile!  Sorry that I’ve been absent for four months now.  I really think that the more free time I have, the less productively I use that time, and four straight months is more than I’ve had….pretty much ever.  Luckily, my beautiful wife, Jenn is a more responsible blogger, and let’s face it, has a lot more talent for writing blog posts than I do.

That being said, today you get me, so I’ll fill you in on my new job.  As Jenn has already said, I got hired a couple of days ago at a fire protection company, designing sprinkler systems.  I had to go in for an interview, a test design, and then finally one more time to get the offer, so the whole process took a couple of weeks.  I’m glad it paid off!

Before, I was designing plumbing systems and sprinkler systems, so the focus on just fire sprinklers is a bit of a career shift.  It’s a welcome one, though, because it’s what I’ve wanted to focus on for awhile now.  Because of the shift, I’ll be starting out as a “Trainee” for the first year, but everyone (including me) is confident that I can learn the skills required to becoming a full designer by next fall.  This also lets me breathe a little easier, and work my way into my position at a more comfortable pace.

I get great pay and benefits and the commute is A LOT nicer than what I had in Maine.  And it won’t change much when we move into our new house.  We also work 9 hour days Monday through Thursday, so I’ll get Friday afternoons off, year round! 

There are a lot of great things about the job, but the best one?  Looking at Jenn sitting on our living room couch looking back at me and saying “I’m proud of you”.

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Quick Hello

Hey.. Y’ALL!

Wow. So, I’m really sorry there hasn’t been anything going on around here. It’s not because we don’t love you (we do!) It’s not because I don’t have words (they are OVERflowing!) but it’s mostly because we are settling into “real” life here.

The great news of today is that Casey got the job he interviewed for!!! We both interviewed on the same day, but his company took a little longer because they had to assess his design skills. I’ll let him tell you more about it (he’s PROMISED to write on Saturday).

My job is going great! The only pitfall is I’m now a supervisor, so my kid stories are going to be lacking. I get to fill in if some of my employees are out sick, but generally I’ll be behind the scenes. This will be a transition for me. I’m trying to train Skeeter to say funny things, but it’s not working out. Instead I just mock him.

So, the next post you can expect from me, will be tales from the road. Things we learned the hard way and why I got pulled over!

Talk soon! xo

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For Him

Life. It sucks. It happens. It isn’t fair. It’s wonderful. It’s beautiful. It is fleeting.

2 years ago today, when Casey had a stroke – I felt all of these things in the course of 2 days.

Today, two years later almost to the minute, I am simply filled with gratitude.

For him.

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The Numbers…

38 days.

11, 430 miles.

34 states visited.

4 internet buds turned into real life buds.

1 birthday.

1 anniversary.

8 national parks.

And only 1 stop by a police officer, but that’s another story for another day.

 

 

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