30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 5

DAY FIVE:
A Song to Match Your Mood
I’ve heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well, I don’t know if I believe that’s true
But I know I’m who I am today   Because I knew you…
Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder 
Halfway through the wood

Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
I have been changed for good 

It well may be
That we will never meet again
In this lifetime
So let me say before we part
So much of me
Is made of what I learned from you
You’ll be with me
Like a handprint on my heart


And now whatever way our stories end
I know you have re-written mine
By being my friend…
Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a skybird
In a distant wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
Who can say if I’ve been

Changed for the better?
(I do believe I have been
Changed for the better …)

And because I knew you…
Because I knew you…

Because I knew you… I have been changed for good…

~Lyrics “For Good” from the Broadway Musical Wicked
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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 5

DAY FIVE:
A Song To Match Your Mood

This is a hard one for me, because it involves deep analysis of my mood and a search through the library of songs I know, which I consider quite large.

One interesting thing I will note is that I’ve found in recent years that the song in my head changes automatically with my mood, and reflects it.  When I can’t get a song out of my head, I find that it’s usually because I’m stuck in a certain mood and I need to change my mood to change the song.

As of right now I have “Long Live” by Taylor Swift going through my head (don’t laugh…too hard), and I noticed that it started a few minutes ago after Jenn got home from work.  I’m pretty sure the lyrics don’t really reflect my mood, though.

Before that, I was sitting at the computer and the dogs were outside playing, leaving me in a peacful mood.  I had “The Answer” by Richie Sambora going through my head.  For those who may not be fully up on him, he’s the lead guitarist from Bon Jovi. His first of two solo albums was apparently released in 1994, and I recently downloaded it off of Amazon and fell in love with it.

The lyrics to “The Answer” don’t really reflect my mood, because I’m not entirely sure what they’re about…I think he’s intended to have a deeper meaning, which is lost on me for the time being.  But the instruments are heavy with acoustic guitar, without any drums and it’s just a very peaceful song.  I’ll add that I just love how none of his songs ever made the radio, but I get treated to treasures by the likes of Katy Perry almost every morning when I shave.

So, I guess I better find a song…Ok, to keep people slightly more up to date, tax day is coming and we got hit pretty hard by Uncle Sam.  We’ve found ways to cope by making some changes until our savings can recover, but it hasn’t necessarily been easy for the past couple of weeks.  I think obstacles like this can really show how well two people can work together, and Jenn and I continue to prove how perfect we are for each other.

Really, there’s a lot of detail I could go into here, but I’m straying from the topic so I’ll save all this for another post.  The reason I mentioned all that is because it’s been on my mind a lot lately, so to be overly dramtic I’ve chosen two Bon Jovi classics whose lyrics are somewhat accurate: “Livin’ On A Prayer” and “Someday I’ll Be Saturday Night”, although I admit to being overly dramatic in my choices.

Ok, I guess those songs are intended to reflect my life right now and not my mood, but I’ve given like four songs plus an album, and I’m really having trouble doing anything but ramble off topic.  My intent, though, since I was having trouble with the topic, was to show another little window into my mind so hopefully I’ve accomplished that and you’ve enjoyed it!

And if you’re unfamiliar with any of the songs I’ve listed, go check them out on your music webstore of choice!

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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 4

DAY FOUR:
Your Parents
The photo above is of my parents on their wedding day, way back on July 31, 1971…almost 40 years ago!  My Mom and Dad met when they were 16 and became high school sweethearts, and have been together ever since!  I’m pretty sure that they are the only couple from the Windham High School class of ’68 that remains together to this day!  It takes a special couple to have been together for that long, especially in this day and age!
Why am I rambling on and on about how long they’ve been married?  Because I’d like to think that they have set a good example for me in my own relationship/marriage to Jenn.  I think that their ability to make things work and to stick together through thick and thin somehow rubbed off on to me, and maybe that combined with their constant encouragement for me to succeed is part of the reason I am the man I am today and the “perfect man for Jenn”…or so I’m told!  😉
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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 4

DAY FOUR:
Your Parents
As I mentioned before, my parents are the reason that that I know and feel unconditional loved. I am blessed beyond words to have my parents unconditional support – they have been my cheerleaders through my whole life to where I stand today.
I love that I still get to talk to my parents at least once a week (but I usually talk to my Mom two times a week or more).  I am fortunate to have them to call when I’ve forgotten how long to cook the pot roast, which cables to hook up when jumping a car, to cry to when I feel sad or lonely or scared, or talkwaytoofastto when I have exciting news to share. When Casey proposed to me, we called my parents immediately, both laying giggling on the kitchen floor listening to my parents also explode with joy.
When we began to plan our wedding, my parents were one of the very few people who did not pressure us to do something the way they wanted it done – they only wanted us to be happy. I got to dance with both my mother and my father on my wedding day – they walked me down the aisle together – and together they’ve shown me what it means to be together for better or for worse. There will never be enough words to say thank you to them – but that won’t ever stop me from trying to express my gratitude. Thank you, Mom & Dad. I love you!

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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 3

DAY THREE:
Your First Love

AWWWWWW…. isn’t he cute? Okay, okay, so this is my husband. When he was just a little boy, yet to grow into the wonderful man who put gas in my car when it was -5 this morning and the man that just toasted me a corn muffin toasty to eat while I blog. Although, I have dated a few others before him – and it’s incredibly and shamelessly corny – he is truly my first love. Therefore, in my mind, he’s the only one worth re-hashing. The others that came before him were more like lessons. Lessons in what I didn’t want, lessons in what I couldn’t tolerate, lessons in learning not to settle. Lessons that in turn created who I am today, and made me the woman that Casey chose to marry.

There are a lot of rough things that I’ve “survived” in my relatively short 28 years in life. I have been to more funerals and spent countless hours in hospitals with various medical issues – both that of my family and myself. There have been MANY times that I have cursed the universe. But, when I take a step back, I realize how very lucky I am. Because although I have been given a lot to manage, I’ve also been given everything I need to manage it – and by that, I mean the people that surround me. Casey is one of those amazing people and I feel so blessed to call him my husband, and my very first love.


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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 3

DAY THREE:
Your First Love
 

Yay, I’m first today!  My first love is Jenn, regardless of what I may have thought in the past.  This makes this particular topic hard to blog about today, since it’s kind of the theme of the blog and as such I’ve already been blogging about it quite a bit already.

I will say again that I feel that Jenn is the other half of me, and that we complete each other.  In short, we are soul mates.  I could tell you about the first time I fell in love with her, but I did that yesterday!

Unfortunately, I don’t have much else to add to this today, except for an addendum to yesterday.  Jenn reminded me this morning on our ride up to work (we got to ride up together today, yay!) that on the night I proposed, we had just spent the evening dancing the foxtrot in the kitchen to “So This Is Love”.  So, as you can see, “So This Is Love” has quite a deep meaning for us and has been a part of many major milestones in our relationship!

 
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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 2

DAY TWO:
Meaning Behind Your Blog Name
 

As my wife has said, “So This Is Love” is the title of a song from Disney’s classic “Cinderella”.  But to me it is so much more…
Back in May of 2008, after dating for around 4 months, Jenn suggested that we take ballroom dance lessons at The Dance Studio Of Maine.  From what I’ve seen, most guys are not interested, but I guess I’m not most guys!  I had A LOT of fun, and continued to have a lot of fun for many months to come!
Later that first month, on Memorial Day, Jenn and I took a day trip up to Pemaquid Point.  It was a perfect day; the first really clear blue, warm days of the year that reminds you that summer is right around the corner.  We had so much fun climbing around on rocks, both at the lighthouse, and at another beach Jenn had found.  Skeeter came, too, and we dubbed him the “Yoda” of rock climbing, since he was so much faster than us!
As Jenn stated in an earlier post, this was the day that I fell in love.  I remember sitting on a deck at the restaurant we stopped at for lunch, and looking out over the ocean thinking how perfect and content I was with her.  How being with her just felt right, and how she was the half of me I’d been missing.
That night we went to my parents’ house for supper.  We showed them the foxtrot moves we had learned at our dance class, as we danced all around the patio of their pool.  Jenn had speakers attached to her Ipod playing “So This Is Love”, as performed by Peabo Bryson (the male vocals in the radio version of “A Whole New World”).  My Mom used her digital camera to videotape us dancing and send me a copy the next day.  I remember watching the video of us dancing around the pool while the music played, and it looked just like a certain scene in all those chick flicks where the lead guy and lead girl realize that they have something special between them and fall in love.
So, that’s why that song has so much meaning to me.  And why it was our first dance, as Jenn explained, and why we had our dance instructor choreograph a special dance to go with it.  Jenn also had it engraved on the inside of my wedding band, along with our wedding date.
In short, “So This Is Love” describes us perfectly!
 
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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 2

DAY TWO:
Meaning Behind Your Blog Name
“So This is Love” is simply put, the first song that we danced to at our wedding. It is the song from Disney’s Cinderella, but the version we used can be seen here. It is a beautiful version and we learned a dance to go with it. The phrase itself, to me, seems to sum up my relationship with Casey. There have been times in the past where I thought I was in love (haven’t we all). Hot damn, though, when the real deal comes along – it will knock you flat on your back. THAT’S how amazing it is. When I look at Casey, 90% of the time I am thinking “so THIS is love!!!!” Finally. I have found an amazing and unconditional love that I treasure each and every day. This phrase sums us up. Plus, it’s just beautiful and it was a lot of fun to dance to at our wedding — even though I was having an “OH MY GOD I’M STEPPING ON MY DRESS WHEN WE GO BACKWARDS AND CRUSHING THE BEAUTIFUL BEADING COULD THIS BE ANY WORSE” moment for part of the dance, when I looked into Casey’s face and he smiled at me, I again was thinking – so this is love.

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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 1

This blog is like half a day old and already has like three Jenn posts on it, so I guess it’s high time I got in on the action!  So here is my answer to today’s blog challenge, reprinted below for the readers’ convenience!

DAY ONE:
Introduction, recent picture, and 5 interesting facts!
 

There’s a picture first, because I’m rebellous like that.  This shot was taken at our friend Karli’s wedding last summer!  It was a lot of fun, and we enjoyed much dancing and cupcake-eating!

My wife has already done a good job of introducing me, but I suppose I can elaborate a little more.  I’m 32, I have a BS degree in Electrical Engineering, which somehow eventually translated to designing plumbing and fire protection systems for a varierty of building types, but primarily supermarkets.  If you ever go to the bathroom at a Shaw’s, think of me because there is a chance that I may have had something to do with making it work (or getting it through permitting anyway!)  I hope to get my Professional Engineer’s license in Fire Protection this October.

I love my wife very much.  She is the center of my world, and I love being in love and just enjoying the simple things we do together, like holding hands, cuddling in front of the TV or a camp fire, and taking off to different fun locations around Maine and beyond, like Rockland, Islesboro, Boston, and this summer Barcelona, Rome, and France.

I also have a lot of fun with her being active, whether it be walks, a trip to the gym, or swimming in Sebago Lake in mid-April (triathlon training; you do what you gotta do)!

Lastly, as Jenn touched upon, I am also a super nerd.  Not as much as I was pre-Jenn, before I had a life, but I still have a file at Casablanca Comics (that’s where the people working there grab things that I’ve reserved so I can pick them up at my convenience), I know all the names, mask colors, weapons, and personalities of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, and I sit down in the basement about every third Friday night with my friend Justin and play with little plastic superheroes.  So some of my nerdy heritage certainly lives on.

Now onto the five facts…hopefully they are interesting!

1. I’m going to totally copy Jenn, and start with the fact that up until four years ago my blood type was Ragu.  Let’s have a look at the photo, taken around the summer of 2006:

Attractive, eh?  I had been fat all my life, and eventually stopped weighing myself and getting regular physicals.  My last childhood physical was sometime in 1993, I believe.  I had whatever I needed to get into college in ’96, but I really didn’t go to the doctor’s office for like 13 years.  I got my current job at Harriman towards the end of 2005, and being my first real job with benefits, by summer of 2006 I decided to go see my old family doctor again.
I’m not sure if he really remembered me or not, I remembered him having dark black hair, as opposed to none.  The physical basically amounted to I was 6′ 4′ and 337 lbs and tall or not, that was BIG.  I spent the next sixth months or so thinking about it, and then on January 11, 2007 I met with a personal trainer, who is paid for my my office for all employees as part of our benefits package.  Turns out my blood pressure was high; 150/98, which is apparently level 2 hypertension.  Thus began a lot of working out, and changing my eating habits.  About a year later I met Jenn for the first time and had lost nearly 100 pounds.  By a year or so later I had topped out at 160 lbs of weight loss and now have a healthy body mass index!
I went back to my doctor after the fact,a nd he was blown away.  It turns out he was about to retire (like the next day) and gave me my medical file to bring to my next PCP.  According to the information inside and my memory, I am at my 6th grade weight!  Woo-Hoo!
2. I am 32 years old, and I am a stroke survivor.  Last October, during a routine workout, a felt a “zap” in my head, which I thought was a pulled muscle, but seemed to affect the ability to move my left limbs, and made me incredibly dizzy.  I also threw up twice, which is something I rarely do.  Jenn called an ambulance and I was carried out on a chair to stretcher and rushed to Maine Med in an ambulance while Jenn followed close behind.  Also rushing there was our friend Stacey and the two of them provided me comfort all night in the ER.  Finally, at like 4:30 am, I was diagnosed with a headache and sent home.  My symptoms had faded somewhat.  But they came back three days later, and Jenn drove me back to the ER, where they did some better tests and determined I had had a stroke and admitted me for one night.  A doctor quizzed me, and it turns out I had trouble naming the President, Vice President, and I didn’t know what the upcoming election was, but I could name the original five X-Men.
Recovery was long, and still not totally over.  Even as I type this, I still have trouble positioning my left hand on the keyboard.  There are many more stories I could tell about this experience, but I’ll save those for a later post!
3.  I learned to ride a bike when I was 29.  I had never been able to ride one very well without training wheels, due to balance issues, being overweight, and loving my Atari 2600, NES, and SNES.  I decided during my weight loss journey that I wanted to be able to say that I could ride a bike, and a couple of coworkers helped me out.  Now I can ride!  Well, casually, at least, and in a triathlon once a year.
4. I went to my first real concert when I was 32!  My 32nd birthday present from my wife last summer was four tickets to Daughtry!  We went with Jenn’s Mom Sandy, and Stacey, and had a great time!  I am a big Daughtry fan!  Lifehouse opened for them and did a cincert in and of themselves, and cemented me as one of their loyal fans.  Sandy’s present to me was Bon Jovi tickets, so that was my second concert, all in the same summer!  I am a huge Bon Jovi fan as well!
5. I’m having trouble with #5.  How about I secretly watch “Teen Mom 2”?  See, I really want to right now, so I guess this will be it for now. I hope you’ve enjoyed this little window into my life and I look forward to future postings!  What will they be about? Triathlons? Spider-Man?? Richie Sambora??! Stayed tuned!!
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30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 1

To encourage both Casey and I do post on this new blog, we’re going to participate in a 30 Day Blog Challenge! I got it here by doing a simple google search. I love me some google action! Here’s Day 1 (which I modified to 5 interesting facts because I DO have other things to do!)
DAY ONE:
Introduction, recent picture, and 5 interesting facts!
Here I am. This past summer, the day after Casey and I completed our first triathlon! I realize I don’t have any pictures from Christmas, New Years, or the last few months. What is that about? Apparently I also need to get back on taking pictures.
As for an introduction- I think I got that out of the way in the very first post, so I won’t bore you with another rendition! Without further ado, here are 5 “interesting” facts about me (using the term “interesting” fast and loosely, here!)
1. I used to look like this. In 2006, I graduated from my BSW program (undergraduate) and realized I looked like THIS. Finally, something hit me, and I joined a gym. The first time I went to the gym (with best friend, Stacey, in tow) I got on an elliptical and COULD NOT FINISH 5 MINUTES. I went home and cried. A lot. This time, however, I went back the next day and it led to a weight loss journey of 114 lbs. Pretty much a whole person. Without Stacey working out and helping me cook, and my Mom giving me her advice (being that she also lost a significant amount of weight – I think in the 90-100lb range), I would not have been able to do it. Thankfully, I did have them – and I was able to get down to a healthy weight without a program, surgery, or any major health complications. This doesn’t stop me from having continuous body image issues to this day. When I look in the mirror, I pretty much still see this girl. I don’t know how to change that.
2. On June 13, 2010 Casey and I completed our first Triathlon together! For those who don’t know, that is a swim, bike, and run. We completed a sprint triathlon – which was a 1/3 mile swim, 13 mile bike ride, and a 3 mile run. I vowed in my wedding vows to Casey that we would complete one, and we did! We plan on doing another one this year. In fact, we just entered training again. It’s good to have a goal to work toward, or I find I get very easily lazy in my work-outs!
3. My Dad and I danced to “Walk Like an Eygptian” at my wedding. It may not be your typical father-daughter dance, but it was important to us. Why? Because every time that came on in our living room when I was little, my Dad would dance around with me like a big dork. I always told him that someday he and I would dance to it at our wedding. I’m pretty sure he didn’t believe me. This was the look he gave me when my slow father-daughter dance broke into the Bangles! Then! The whole family got involved. It got a little dicey and ended up looking like this (see above)

4. Casey and I were on the TODAY show!!!  On August 4, 2008 (I think) we were hosted by Joy Bauer, Kathy Lee Gifford, and Hoda (I’m not sure of her last name). I wrote into the show because I had lost over 100 pounds without surgery or a program. I was accepted onto the show and asked if Casey could join me, because he also had lost over 100 pounds!! It was a totally surreal, amazing experience. We were flown out to NY for one night, two days. We were then featured on our local station for their “Fit at Five” series. That story is here. The one on the TODAY show is no longer available by the web. It was nearly 3 years ago, I suppose! 🙂

5. I never thought I’d be working with kids. But I am. And most days, I really love it. Most of my adult life, and most of the time I’ve spent working, I’ve always worked with adults in the mental health field. When I graduated with my masters degree, I basically took the first (well, technically, the second) job that was offered to me, because I needed money. BAD. They took a chance on me, because I had never worked with kids. I guess I took a chance too. You never know where life’s road will lead you!

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