You Are Not Our Second Choice

You were always part of our family plan.

And as life has probably already taught you, life takes our “plans” and laughs at them. We are thrown challenges, changes, and so many curve-balls. Our well thought out plans become nothing but memories.

Things that we believe to be true are not. Things that seem easy can become so very hard.

Life is like that.

So often it gives us what we need, instead of what we believe we need. Those two things aren’t always different, but they are sometimes.

For example, we didn’t know that you would come to us first.

But we always knew you would come to us. That someday, our paths would cross and all of our lives would be forever changed.

I don’t know why it’s so important for you to know this, whoever you are, wherever you are – but my heart needs your heart to understand that you are not our consolation prize. You are not a solution to our own infertility. You are not plan B.

You are not our second choice.

We just didn’t know that you would come to us now, at this time. We thought it would be later.

But it’s not. And isn’t that wonderful?

Life is bringing us all one step closer to each other as we speak.

And when we meet -  when your  footsteps are running down the stairs in the morning, when it is your laugh echoing through this house, when it is you playing with our dog, and when yours is the hand I hold on the way to the bus stop – please know that your presence in our life was planned from the very beginning.

We know that it won’t be an easy journey. That this will be a huge change, and challenge for all of us. However, rest assured, that our family is one worth fighting for. And things that challenge us are the things that make us stronger, better, more capable.

The best things in life are often the things that don’t come easy.

And now that we’re on this path to you?

We can’t wait.

But we will – and it will be totally worth it.

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8 Responses to You Are Not Our Second Choice

  1. story says:

    So beautiful. And you, my dear, are a gift. I can’t wait to see the mother you’ll be. But of course, I will wait and will be here watching.
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  2. jen says:

    My heart just swells reading these words Jenn; and I know in my heart of hearts there is a perfect little someone waiting to be loved and to love you back…..
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  3. This is just so beautiful! What a gift to your future child to have not only these words to look back on, but a mother who knows these things to be true. Good luck as you continue on your journey…

    So glad I found you from SITS!

  4. {Melinda} Beautiful. This is a very fortunate child. A couple from our church (who already had two biological children) chose to adopt two sweet little boys from Ethiopia who are HIV-positive. It had been an absolutely beautiful thing to watch their journey. They gave their testimony at church a few weeks ago and the whole congregation was a sobby mess. Such a touching story. I wish you every blessing as you add this new child to your family!

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  5. My eyes are watery! How beautiful this is. And yes — definitely not a second choice – a FIRST and special one. Blessings on your journey. Stopping by from SITS and thankful I did!
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  6. Your family is definitely worth fighting for. So excited for you right now. What a journey it will be. And so worth the wait!
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  7. Tara says:

    Just wanted to congratulate you! Your blog made me smile. I’m very happy for you and your family!
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  8. Jenny says:

    This was such a beautiful post, Jenn. You will be a wonderful mother. I cannot wait to read along as you continue on this journey.
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